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Saturday, August 6, 2016

A Taste of Home and Some Wedding Cake

The Germans never look up. Why should they? There is nothing much to see by looking up. There are no stars, no moon, no sun to gaze upon. At least not often as the heavens are so completely and often obscured by grey cloud cover. There aren't even mountain tops to admire. (To put this in perspective, the highest Mountain peak in Germany is about 2900 meters high. The highest point of the Sierra Nevada Mountains is about 4300 meters high). As a result,  their eyes are trained solidly at ground level. They plod along without looking up  Without looking out. Without seeing beyond. This translates into what I think is a cornerstone of their general pragmatism.  Greg would tell you that when asked where his employees want to be in 1,2 or 5 years.. they haven't the foggiest. Its just not in their nature to dream or reach. They simply find joy in what they have.They are supremely practical. There is a deep beauty in it. One of the lessons that was impressed upon me in college, and has proven to be very true, is how so very much of culture is determined by the physical world that a people live in. It is something I admire and if I were to spend a lifetime here without ever really seeing the sky, I would be as German as they come. 

But I would be missing something very central to who I am individually...That expansion of the soul that happens under the stars. Returning to the High Desert, I realized just how much I had missed full moons and sunshine. I soaked up as much of both as I possibly could while I was there. 


I also soaked up a lot of other things. For instance, Americans are very loud and somewhat obnoxious. When previously immersed in it, I didn't tend to see it. But returning, my senses were initially quite jarred  From the stretch of billboards and signs everywhere to the inevitable question of  "Why in the world is this person telling me some superficial story in the supermarket line?"  Americans are really quite colorful, in your ear and all up in your space. It took me a minute or two to adjust to the glare. Now that we are back.. it seems almost too quiet. 


Also something that took some adjusting to was the heat. We went from an typical high of of 66 degrees (19 C) to a daily average of  97 (36 C) with peaks of as high as 109  (42 C). 


Anyway, The trip was split into various phases. Phase 1  consisted of the first 5 days which we spent on the coast. Details are posted in the Album linked below


Phase 1 California


Phase 2 consisted of our relocating to Reno and spending a few days with the Cousins.

Phase 2 Photo Album (Kaleb and Kira's)

Phase 3 . I am not going to edit this photo album like the other one. Instead I am going to tell the story here. After a few days in Reno, we moved on to Carson where we stayed with the Whatleys. They were incredible hosts. We had a party with Dave who was in from France. Nell and David who came up from the Bay Area, Daves and mine dear friend Denise was there as well. I was also able to dig up an old classmate named Tim whose friendship had been very important to Dave back in the day.  It was a lovely little reunion of sorts. Lots of laughter. Later during our week with the Whatleys, we would meet Sydney, Nell, David and the Schoeppler Family at Sand Harbor for a day of sun and sand. Still no one got burned! When we were not visiting with friends, or admiring the scenery (There is such hidden beauty in that stark dry desert!) and the night, we were busy assisting with Wedding preparations or attending to business at the DMV. Two days of governmental fun... now done and a relief. 

Phase 3 - Friends and Formalities

And so we moved into Phase 4. After staying a week with the Whatleys we returned to Reno where we had booked a house rental for the remainder of our stay. It was a lovely little home in Midtown with a pond and deck. Perfect for visiting. The house even came with a cat! We had a night of quiet .. it wasn't that quiet Greg and I ended up going out with Friends to an Art town event and then off for drinks and karaoke/dancing at the gay bar where Greg was manhandled a bit more than he was comfortable with.. but he handled it with dignity while hiding behind a wall of women. The next day the family began arriving from out of state and wedding adventures began. We had a couple young cousins stay over with the kids. There were mani-pedi's with the girls, the heart stopping emergency with a distant Aunt. Then there was the cousins getting locked in their RV for 14 hours.

Phase 4 - Before the Ceremony

Eventually it was time for the nuptuals. My mom looked lovely (If not a little drugged) and Dunkle Dan was dashing. It was wonderful to have all of the family together for such a joyous event. It seems that these days we usually don't gather except for Funerals. How thrilled I am to see these two together. How thrilled we all were actually!

Phase 5- The Wedding and Reception

That evening we all went out dancing at a local hotspot. A funny story, when we came from Germany we brought a little wall decoration that was a heart and on it it said that Gram and Grandpa are the loveliest. Not speaking German it became a joke that Grandma and Grandpa are lesbians. What makes it funnier is that when we were out dancing the only slow song that Mom and Dunkle danced to was Big Little Towns "Girl Crush"

Dance me to the end of time

The next day family began to return home. Goodbyes were said and things began to wind down. We had brunch with Gregs Aunt and remembered Grandma Mary who passed away not to long ago. We went to see movies with Kaleb and Denise. There was a Pokemon Go and Sushi. And then it was time once again to pack up and head back to the Bay Area to catch our flight home. We stayed the night in Alemeda and got in one last (And all together to short) visit with Nell and David. At our hotel, I looked over the baconly and saw a naked red headed barbie doll "sunning" on a towel on the patio below ours. I called it a German Barbie. Later we went swimming and realized that it did indeed belong to some young german girls. How funny is that?

Thats a Wrap



And so we said goodbye to America, Good bye to the Sun, Goodbye to the Moon, Goodbye to eyes turned to the stars in high dreams and expansion, Goodbye to the blossoming of love. Goodbye to family and those dearest (Although goodbye is not gone.. especially in this day and age of technology) Goodbye to heat. Goodbye to the desert and the lake and stone and sage and pine. Goodbye to our tans. Goodbye to wonderful food. Goodbye to noise and smells.  Until we meet again... 




Tuesday, August 2, 2016

Klinikum

That means hospital and that is where willow and I are right now. 

We got home Friday (I'm working on sitting the pictures and telling those stories and will soon). Saturday was spent recovering and Sunday Willow asked to go with some friends to the pool. Her friend Martin just got his drivers licence and swung by to pick her up on his motorcycle. Of course this made me nervous but he is responsible and the streets of Weimar and alert German drivers pose little threat when compared to the USA. She is growing up and I have to let her. The drive home and back were uneventful. However she chose to jump off the 5 meter platform (15 feet up) and she landed flat on her side. She is bruised from knee to shoulder and can't take a full breath or laugh without severe pain. I monitored her and decided when she woke up today to get it checked out.  the Dr. Recommended chest X-ray's to make sure she didn't crack a rib. She is in good spirits despite the pain.

We return now to the waiting...

Wednesday, July 6, 2016

Laying tracks

Here we are on the almost eve of vacation. And we are just about ready. The bags are packed and double checked. Sunscreen (for our now very pale and ivory skin) and power adapters being among some of the top most priorities.

 I have lined up some neighbors  to gather our mail. They are funny old couple. They were quite impressed with the improvement in my German from our first and only real prior interaction which required a translator and boiled down to the neighbor ranting and raving that apples from my tree where falling in his yard.

Anyway, I have just a few more things to tidy up today... Bathrooms, floors and a last load or two of laundry. Not much but enough to keep me busy and my mind off the looming adventure. Besides I absolutely love returning to a clean and welcoming home!

For the most part our tracks have been laid. A four day weekend in Marina where we will be driving  the children to see friends, enjoying and indulging in Food.... I am drooling over the idea of Cilantro and Black Beans not to mention Sushi.

We will attend a play at the children's theater and we will also have a beach bonfire. Then its homeward bound. Where family anxiously await our arrival. The cousins to start with and a trip to Sand Harbor.

Then we will gather (In front of the swamp cooler no doubt) with the rest of the family and tell our tales over food and drink.

We have a Friday night BBQ planned with friends from all directions coming. French Dave and the old college crowd will likely be around and Nell will be up from Berkeley. Others as well. Good times to be had for sure.

Sunday we will be back up at Sand Harbor with a group that will include Sydney.

Then a week of relaxing with family, taking care of some business with the car and dmv, and welcoming and entertaining family that is arriving for a reunion/union. I imagine with all the little kids, much time will be spent around the Peppermill's  pool.

Things will wind down after that. We will leave with our batteries completely recharged!!

Now to scrub those floors...

See you on the flip side!



Thursday, June 2, 2016

June.

June?
Its June? 
Oh #$*T! 
Really? 
Already?
The year began so drowsy. 
November, December, January, Feb, March swimming in darkness. 
Then the sun emerged and the world unfurled. 
Apple blossoms have since given way to fruit. 
There is no denying that it is summer. 
The kids wade through end of the year exams. 
I wade through the logistics of our trip. 
A sense of being bogged down but knowing that soon those chains of responsibilities will soon fall and then 
we will catapult into a period of leisure and laughter. Weeee!  

Crap. 

I have work to do.

Thursday, May 19, 2016

Quick Snippets and such

I am not finding much time at my desk at the moment (I am prepping for a party) so here are a few quick updates on random things going on.

Connor is off his Meds



Tattoo



Rosie Project






Tuesday, May 17, 2016

The Joys of Laundry... AKA... How I Enjoyed Mother’s Day

As we left for our vacation we got a brief note from Greg's Aunt Linda. All it said was “when the sun shines today, it will be mama smiling from heaven. will be in touch.” Well Grandma smiled on us with a vengeance all weekend long. She is first in line to get her wings. We love you Grandma! And our thoughts and prayers go out to Aunt Linda. We love you too.

As we got home Sunday afternoon I opened a lovely e-card from my Aunt Sharon about how I should sit and relax and enjoy Mother's day. At the end she scrawled a quick note that basically read “After you attend to the chores.” 

Ha Ha!

"When can I write? When can I write?" Words pound around in my skull. Getting the story down is the only thing I want to do but chores claim my attention first. The "Coming home from vacation" chores ..like Laundry, shopping and such. Add on top of that the "Im now seeing my home with fresh eyes because I have been looking at other peoples houses" ,"Damn its dusty!", "And its Spring!' , "And I must clean every corner... Every drawer." chores. Its a rather manic state and woo to those that get in my way. The energy of the sun recharged me. The excitement of the city pumping away in my veins. Motivated, I am making huge strides. Up and down the stairs, Here and there stopping for 20 minutes to jot notes, make lists, or work on scribbling out Connors medical history in German to prep for an appointment. Eventually the adrenaline begins to fade. Moments of quick note jotting and brainstorming become full fledged writing sessions with words dropping off my fingertips and splashing across the screen.

And here is what I have to tell about Mothers Day... Other than the drive and the chores and the manic happy state productive state I have found myself in for days...

While on vacation, I had the chance to read a short story by an author I have enjoyed in the past. Quite honestly I didn't' want to waste my vacation on the Rosie Project. Reading it is more like a chore. So... "The Slow Regard of Silent Things" by Patrick Rothfuss.  It was beautiful and magical. It really amounts to the story of a broken girl who lives alone and underground. It chronicles her life for the breadth of 6 days during which time she is prepping for a friend to visit. One of the most enduring parts of the story is the reverence and honor that the girl has for the few possessions she owns and for the world in which she lives. I finished the story on the drive home and it was fresh on my mind as we walked in the door. As I scurried about in the basement from room to room, hanging and folding and what not, my mind reflected on the space.  And I was doing the last bit of laundry Sunday night  I  realized just how very thoughtful this house is too provide mom a shower in the laundry room and how grateful I am for it.

Yes, my shower is in the basement of the house. I have always loved it. The water is quickly hot and steamy because it's right next to water heater. Its spacious. The other shower in the house is used mostly by the kids which is narrow and every time I turn around in it I knock the temperature to one extreme or the other. Its not enjoyable. Greg gets daily dibs on the bathtub...He doesn't have the hair to wash.. but we all make good use it from time to time.  

Anyway... the Moms shower is super accommodating. After housework, one can toss their grimy clothes in to the last load of laundry and step right into the waters warm embrace.

There is great joy of returning home to do the laundry and wash the road off. A mothers sigh of contentment.



Tuesday, May 3, 2016

Wings and prayers

The excitement begins to set in and travel plans begin to fall into place. Slowly at first. Airline tickets booked. Whew! We leave (and arrive) on Greg's  birthday. We are doing it in style. Business class all the way.  Then three weeks of family and friends. The whats and wheres now become the question.  Oh so many possibilities to dream up. And believe me my mind is spinning.

Details... details... details ... where to start?

Monterey..  the first leg. After our trip to Amsterdam I will attend to hotels, Rental cars and jugging the kids and our social arrangements there. Then I'll move on to the next leg.

I take a  deep breath and turn my attention to more immediate needs. Reservations made. Tickets printed. Itenerary created. All that remains for preparation is laundry and shopping. I got this one in the bag. Just about ready to lean back and enjoy the canals and culture of the Netherlands. 

(I have no real words to describe how amazed/humbled/thankful I am at the unexpected course my life has taken and I look forward with great anticipation to what lays around the next few bends.)